The wedding is Friday. We (Christina's crew and I) are leaving out about 8:30 pm Wednesday night. Christy thinks that driving 8:30 - 11:30 pm when there is a chance the kids will sleep is a better option than driving 8:30 -11:30 am when there is very little chance that anyone will sleep. She's probably right. The rehersal and dinner is Thursday night. The wedding is Friday night at 7pm. Trying to tell myself not to worry about things.
I pick up our 8 passenger rental vehicle tomorrow afternoon. We got a Chevy Astro and a great price!
I've made a list and started packing. Trying not to worry I'm forgetting something.
I'm not done yet. Trying to tell myself it will get done.
The other parent is making noises that he cannot get to the wedding because of gas money. He has a job. He's known the wedding was coming. He has not planned ahead. He's already asked to 'bum a ride' with Christina's family not knowing that her family and I had already planned to rent a vehicle, ride down together, get a hotel room and go places following the wedding. We're renting an 8 passenger vehicle. There are 8 of us already. We knew the wedding was coming. We planned ahead. We saved the money to make the trip and include a fun family side trip afterwards. I really am not sympathetic to his situation because this clearly falls into the category of reaping what you've sown, but I have ** considered ** giving him gas money to make the trip as being the mom I don't want the daughter stood up by him at the wedding. However, he also doesn't have a decent word in his head about me even though we've been divorced for over 22 years and other than child support I've never bothered him for anything. I've given him money in the past, financed a car for him in the last two years, paid car insurance on the financed car for a while, and then was stiffed on the financed car. Still .... undecided here if I should make the offer to ensure his arrival. Trying to tell myself it's not my problem.
We have to be at the church in wedding attire at 4:30 pm Friday for pictures for a 7pm wedding. That's a long time to keep little girls in white dresses clean, boys in black suits off the floor and the back of a satin gown unwrinkled. Lunch at 2 and cake at 8 is a long span to make little ones wait for food and I'm trying to figure out all the logistics to make everything work for everyone. Trying to tell myself I'm not in control.
Non wedding items:
Still settling in and unpacking boxes and would like to be able to wiggle my nose and have it done. I got a lot done over the long weekend but if I could take a whole week off and have a stay-cation, I would do that and get it done. Non-order on the outside of me creates disorder on the inside of me. Trying to tell myself it will get done in it's own perfect time.
And I loaned somebody something. They havn't returned it. They havn't said anything about it to me since I loaned it. I can't figure out a way to address the situation. I could be using it ... but if I had to choose, the friendship is more important. Feeling the lack of skills here to know how to appropriately and tactfully and gently approach the situation. Trying to figure out what to do.
Calgon .......... take me away!!!!!!!
Hope that borrower wasn't me? Hope your vacation was a good one and that you had a good time at the wedding.
Posted by: Jules Eickmeier | June 06, 2011 at 08:21 AM